5 Ways To Cope With Life Transitions
Life transitions produce anxiety for many people. The anxiety stems from fear of uncertainty and the unexpected changes that are happening in your life. Life transitions can show up unexpectedly in which people feel overwhelmed and cope in unhealthy ways. This can lead to lack of self care and an increase in self destructive behaviour (increase alcohol intake, time on electronic device etc.) Life transition stress can build up and be taken out on loved ones or be repressed and lead to increased anxiety or depression.
Moving is a life transition that many find stressful. Are there ways where you can be less stressed?
Here are some common challenging life transitions that we may face at some point in our lives:
Common Life Transitions
New job/promotion or losing a job
New romantic relationship or break up
Friendship break up or change in relationship with a family member
Losing a pet or a loved one
Going to a new grade (high school) or starting college/university
Children moving out (empty nest)
Change in health (diagnosis)
Moving to a new home or new town
Moving in with spouse, getting married, or having a baby
Retirement
Life transitions related to pregnancy and childbirth often bring significant emotional and psychological changes. Navigating these life events can be both joyful and challenging, requiring support to adjust to new roles and responsibilities.
5 Ways to Cope
Allow yourself to feel: Yes, life transitions can be tough. Find a way to express that and acknowledge the fears/uncertainties around it. Distractions can be helpful temporarily, but it does not solve the problematic thoughts or feelings.
Find something stable: During a time of instability we need something that can ground us. Examples include: going to the gym, yoga, listening to music or making time for friends.
Use a journal: Write out your thoughts and fears regarding this life transition. You will likely notice that some of these fears are exaggerated and unrealistic. Now write out some positive, helpful or more encouraging thoughts around your fear.
Remind yourself: Have you been through past life transitions before? Although it may not be the same, the feelings that arise could be similair. What worked for you in the past? Remind yourself that you’ve been through difficult transitions before and you can do this again.
Find support: Reach out to friends and family that are safe people for you to express your vulnerable side. You can also reach out to a counsellor for additional support and receive a professional perspective.