Understanding Anger

Some people find it challenging to manage their anger. This could be something that they’ve been struggling with for a long time. The common way people try and cope is by repressing it each time the feeling arises. This method is usually unsucessful long term, as it leads to anger outbursts through anger build up.

Why Am I Angry All The Time?

• Learned through family communication style

• Unresolved past experiences

• Pattern of repressing thoughts and feelings

• Self esteem issues

• Unhelpful thinking patterns

• Need for control or get what you want

• Unaware of triggers

• Poor stress management and self care

Anger has a lot to do with fairness. Anger says “someone did something UNFAIR” to me or to my loved one, and I got negatively impacted as a result.

Maybe you’re angry because you come home from work and dinner wasn’t prepared for you. You’re mad.. “How could they not think of me?It’s so unfair!” Let’s challenge this thought for a moment. Was it really unfair? Or is this based on your assumptions or expectations of them? If it’s based on your expectations, were these expectations to prepare dinner every night mutually agreed upon?

What May Help With Your Anger

• Learning to set boundaries

• Have an outlet to process stressful situations

• Understanding your triggers

• Journaling

• Physical outlet

• Music

• Self care

• Forgiveness

Anger is a protective emotion. It serves a purpose. Its not a “good” or “bad” emotion. It’s just an emotion.

If you are struggling with managing your anger, counselling for anger management can help. Having a space to unload, challenge your thinking, and create better habits can have a long term effect on your wellbeing. You can book a FREE CONSULTATION for anger management counselling with me.